The Best Relationship Starts With You
Why You Should Be Whole Before You're Half
This year, I had the incredible opportunity to join Brittainy Noel on the Heart Talks tour as the emcee, and it’s been an experience I truly cherish. If you’ve been following along, you might remember me opening up about my separation and divorce earlier this year. That chapter of my life pushed me to focus even more on my personal growth.
I made a commitment to myself: to heal, to grow, and to step into the world again as a whole person. And let me tell you, that decision changed everything.
Since embarking on this tour, something amazing has happened—I met the man of my dreams. But what’s even more beautiful is how my personal development prepared me for this new chapter.
Here’s a truth no one talks about enough: The strongest relationships are built by two people who are already whole.
If you’re hoping for a relationship to “complete you,” you might be putting pressure on someone else to fill gaps only you can fill. Instead, focus on becoming the best version of yourself first.
Here’s why personal development matters before love:
You’ll attract healthier partners who share your values and growth mindset.
You’ll set clear boundaries and communicate better.
You’ll bring confidence to the table, not insecurity.
This week, take some time to reflect:
Are you happy with where you are in life?
What’s one area you want to grow in—emotionally, spiritually, or even financially?
The work you do on yourself now will create the foundation for the love you truly deserve.
Next step:
Reply to this article with one personal goal you’re working on before stepping into a relationship. If you’re already in a relationship, what’s one goal you’re working on to strengthen it? Let’s grow together!
To your growth,
Javonne
#noexcusetoday